Whatevs haters. Weigh your baby. I don't care.
I am just saying you shouldn't.
I'm just saying don't.
<disclaimer> I'm a history teacher. Don't take my advice on science, parenting, life, cooking, or anything. In fact don't read this blog. Shut the page right now. Stumble upon some other page (confession: don't even know what stumble upon is... and there is some kind of gadget right over <------------ there hanging out on my blog telling you to do it).
Good now that you're not reading anymore.
Dylan, 3.5, was 3 weeks early, 5 pounds, and underweight forever (still is). He lost weight, nursed for 2 hours at a time, and made having a newborn stressful all around.
I read the books.
The ones that read like stereo instructions.
The baby should be gaining x-ounces every x-days.
The baby should be nursing x-long every x-hours.
I saw the charts.
I followed them.
I didn't follow D.
I never once just didn't think. I over-analyzed every whimper, cry, and doctor's appointment.
We bought the above scale and weighed him all the time.
Stripped off all his clothes and weighed him multiple times a day - freaking out about his lack of progress.
Weight gain (or lack of weight gain) got so stressful for me, I made my husband take him to the doctor while I sat and pumped in the car (under obviously ideal pumping conditions -- comfortable, stress free, relaxed...).
So... I didn't like the way that things went the first time around.
So... along comes baby E.
1+ weeks late.
On his own terms.
With a doula and more than 3 days of labor and 3 hours of pushing (fyi - the 3 days of labor - I was having contractions every 5 minutes - I don't know about karma - but I feel like I was paying for something...)
With E, I have NEVER once looked at the clock.
Never really thought much about anything.
If he's crying I feed him.
Now that he eats real food, I give him everything.
I don't worry about the doctors' anymore.
E didn't gain weight. UGH.
Good thing, like me, my doctor is not an alarmist.
He just said we'll check again when he's 1 and that was that. Feed him full fat foods, he's meeting his milestones, it's all good.
Same doctor, same attitude, different mommy.
E's meeting his milestones way faster than D did. I don't know that there is enough air in my house for all the talking in my future.
I am stress free.
I just wish D's mom could have met E's mom a few years ago.
With all this said, I was just cleaning for the first time in a while <read since before Christmas... I had to vaccum up the pine needles> and stumbled upon (pun intended) one of my favorite old books (I collect them).
I opened it up right to a weight chart from 1901. I thought - I bet my baby is normal then... before babies were huge (nope).
But then I read Dr. Kerley's recommendations.
"The use of a weight chart I do not advise. Such a chart, while recommended by many well known writers, has been the cause of serious trouble... Worry and anxiety have cause the milk of hundreds of mothers to fail, and rendered further nursing impossible..."
Sounds a little crunchy right?
I bet he cloth diapered too.
Hard to believe before the internet, facebook, online mom's groups, and ratemydoctor.com, that he knew what he was talking about.
OK - off to learn "How to Lift the Baby."
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